Thursday, February 20, 2014

Re-Blogged: Dozens of Links Documenting CC System Far More Harmful Than Good

This post is re-blogged in its entirety.  See original blog HERE.

Dozens of Links Documenting Common Core System Far More Harmful Than Good  

Common Core Concerns
Please click on the links to get to the original source documents that verify Common Core does far more damage than good.

The Race to the Top Grant Application – In this, Utah got points toward possibly winning grant money. Points were awarded in this application for the state’s having a student-tracker, this federally funded, nationally interoperable SLDS database system. (It is illegal to have a national student database; yet, all 50 states have matching, interoperable SLDS systems. The 50 SLDS’s effectually function as a national student database.

States submit K-12 data to the federal Edfacts Exchange –despite the U.S. Constitution and GEPA law which makes such accountability to the federal government illegal. Note that it is not allowed for any Utah student to opt out of being tracked, and parents are not notified nor asked for consent for this P-20 (preschool through grade 20) surveillance.) Also in this application, Utah got points to adopt the Common Core (without having seen any empirical data to prove Common Core academically legitimate). This lure of federal money was how Utah got in to the current bind. Despite not winning any grant money, Utah unfortunately chose to remain in both the Common Core and what amounts to the federal student surveillance program.

It is noteworthy that despite claims that only aggregated data is submitted to Edfacts Data Exchange, the CCSSO (state superintendents society that copyrighted Common Core) has a “stated commitment to disaggregation of data” and numerous federal websites do model student data standardization and invite states to use common data sets which makes it easier to share personally identifiable information, including biometric and behavioral data.
 
The No Child Left Behind Waiver – This shows the 15% cap the federal government put on top of the copyrighted Common Core. The 15% rule limits innovation and excellence, being enforced in the common core aligned test systems and by textbook sales companies’ near-monopoly on any thought beyond Common Core. The 15% rule is also echoed in multiple documents from governmental and common core corporate developers.

The State Longitudinal Database System Grant – This is the federally paid-for database that every state in the U.S. has. It tracks students within the state. But each SLDS can communicate with another. There is no apparent limit to how much information is being collected by schools, and no permission is collected from parents to have such information, nor is there any limit on how much information can be given by states to the federal government about students, because of Department of Education alterations to federal FERPA regulations. Vendors, volunteers and other unwanted “stakeholders” can now be considered “authorized representatives” to access data. Parental consent has been reduced from a requirement to a “best practice.”

The lawsuit against the Department of Education – The Electronic Privacy Information Center has sued the U.S. Department of Education for shredding previously protective federal FERPA law. The lawsuit explains which terms were redefined, which agencies now have legal access to the private data of students, and much more.

Utah’s Core Standards – This document (link below) has been removed, but it used to show on page four, how Utah lost local control under Common Core. Utah had to ask permission from an unelected D.C. group to alter its own state standards. It said: modified by permission from CCSSO 2010.
http://schools.utah.gov/CURR/mathelem/Core-Curriculum/Utah-Core-Standards-in-Mathematics-Approved-Versio.aspx

The copyright on Common Core held by CCSSO/NGA – The fact that there are “terms of use” and a copyright shows that Utah has no local voice in altering the national standards, which were written behind closed doors in D.C. and which can be altered by their creators at any time without representation from the states governed by them.

The report entitled “For Each And Every Child” from the Equity and Excellence Commission – This report was commissioned by Obama. It reveals that power to forcibly redistribute resources, including teachers, principals and money, is a key reason that federal education reformers want a national education system.

The Executive Summary of Race to the Top – see page 3, part D 3. This clearly shows the same tactic: the federal education reformers hope to gain the power to redistribute teachers and principals to their definition of “ensuring equitable distribution of effective teachers and principals.”

The Cooperative Agreement between the Dept. of Education and the testing consortia – Even though Utah escaped the SBAC and is not bound by the Cooperative Agreement directly, Utah’s current testing group, A.I.R., works closely with SBAC. This document shows how clearly the Department of Education has mandated a synchronizing of tests and the sharing of data to triangulate the SBAC and PARCC under the watchful eye of the Department.

The speeches of Secretary Arne Duncan on education – He claims Common Core was Obama’s plan. He also states that he hopes to make schools replace families as the center of people’s lives, with schools open seven days a week, all year round, almost all day long. See video clip: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DuO_nB7WY9w

The speeches of President Obama on education – Obama’s 2020 goal is to control teachers, tests, money, and toddlers.

The speeches of the CEA of Pearson Ed, Sir Michael Barber – Barber wants every school on the globe to have the same academic standards and he promotes the underpinning of global education standards with environmental extremism. He promotes ending diversity, using global sameness and uses the term “irreversible reform.” His ruthless book, Deliverology, is dedicated to American education reformers. It advocates delivering a set goal at any price and at any cost. Pearson is the world’s largest education sales company; it’s now partnered with Bill Gates, the second wealthiest man on earth, to promote global common education, devoid of any academic empirical proving that the standards are beneficial rather than harmful.

The speeches of the main funder of Common Core, Bill Gates – He’s funded Common Core almost completely on his own; he’s partnered with Pearson; he says “we won’t know Common Core works until all the tests and curriculum align with these standards” and he’s writing curriculum for all. He also speaks of the usefulness of having students be “a uniform customer base.”

The speeches of David Coleman, non-educator, and the lead architect of the Common Core ELA standards who has been promoted to College Board President. He mocks narrative writing, has diminished the percentage of classic literature that’s allowable in the standards, promotes “informational text” without studying the effect of the reduction of classic literature on students long term, and, although he’s not been elected, yet he’s almost single-handedly reduced the quality and liberty of the high school English teacher’s options. As College Board President, he’s aligning the SAT to his version of what Common standards should be. This will hurt universities, which now know, for example, that students are not learning Calculus nor much classic literature in high school any more.

Promoting Grit, Tenacity and Perseverance – see p. 62/44 – This U.S. Dept. of Education report assures all that data about behavioral and attitudinal indicators of students are desperately wanted by the federal government. It’s all about controlling students by knowing their inner thoughts. Facial expression cameras, posture analysis seats, pressure mouses, wireless skin sensors are all recommended as ways to collect data about children in a continuous stream, in this document.
The federal websites such as the EdFacts Exchange, the Common Education Data Standards, the National Data Collection Model, and the Data Quality Campaign, sites -Three of these four ask states to match other states’ personally identifiable information collection. – The first link shows what we already give to the federal government; the others show what the federal government is requesting that all states do, which does include collecting intimate, personally identifiable information such as bus stop times, nicknames, parental voting record, academic scores, health information, mother’s maiden name, social security number, etc.

The Common Core English and Math standards – These are the actual standards. (CCSS)
The CCSS were rejected by key members of their validation committee, who have published and testified extensively that Common Core is an academic mistake that dramatically weakens high school standards.

American Institutes for Research - AIR’s common core implementation document shows that AIR is not an academic testing group but a behavioral research institute partnered with the federally funded and federally controlled SBAC testing group. Parents and teachers may not see these subjectively written, attitude assessing test questions; and students cannot succeed in this computer adaptive test, which guarantees that all students fail about half the questions.

HB15 – This bill shows that Utah law requires the assessment of behavior and attitudes. See line 59.

SB 175 – proposed amendments to this bill show that it is Utah educational leadership’s will that any student who opts out of Common Core testing will be punished academically (see line 135) and his/her school will be punished as well (see line 168)

Legislators in Pennsylvania, Michigan, Indiana, Georgia, North Carolina, and elsewhere are working to write protective laws guarding data privacy, upholding parental and local teachers’ voices in education, and halting education dollars for unpiloted, experimental Common Core trainings and tests.

They aren’t only concerned that time and money are being invested in an academic train wreck. It’s a precendent-setting liberty issue. Unelected groups now set governance policies that Utahns must abide by. Surely, CCSSO, NGA, Achieve, Inc., or Bill Gates have no constituency. Yet the whims of this group are ruling teachers, administrators and students in Utah.
This is un-American governance.

Common Core: How I began my journey of discovery

About six months ago I realized I couldn't keep putting off learning about Common Core.  I was seeing a lot about it - both in support and in opposition of it - and decided I'd better get in the game and study the facets and evaluate for myself how it would impact me, my family, and our society.  In my first real step of discovery, I invited a young woman I know and trust who had spent several months studying Common Core (with a group of friends and then having discussion groups with them about it) to come into my home to explain her findings to me and anyone else that was interested in learning more.  There were about 25 people at that first meeting that began the opening of my eyes.   

How on earth can I write a blog post or two that summarizes six months of studying every day about a subject?  The task is daunting, which is why I've put it off this long.  However, I have decided to attempt a summary at this point so my voice can be more widely heard and so that many of the articles I've come across can be in one place for those that want to know why I feel so strongly about Common Core.  Much of what I include will be quotes by other people who have already said what I would say.


Facebook status by Jen Sanchez that hits the nail on the head: 
 7 Principles for Family-Friendly Education Policy:
1) Does it honor the parents' natural right to direct the education of their own children?
2) Have you asked the parents?
(Would parents voluntarily opt-IN?)
3) Who is asking for this?
(The interests of business, government, or any other groups are secondary to the rights of the parent as the primary customer and consumer of educational services for their children.)
4) Local control... or central planning?
(Does it support a local/parent-oriented education model, or a more centralized model?)
5) What are the unintended consequences for families?
(What adverse impact could the proposed legislation/policy/new government powers have on individuals and families, now and in the future?)
6) Does it strengthen or weaken parent/child relationships?
7) Does it protect individuals' natural and enumerated rights, per our founding documents?
(Does it protect, for example, the Constitutional right to privacy?)

While leaning about Common Core you'll discover that it does not meet ANY of the criteria listed above. I'm pretty sure most of the people I know want these 7 things, but maybe haven't considered CC in this light before. Take a minute to look at the list, then take as much time as it takes to study CC and decide for yourself if you are satisfied with the whole picture - not just one or two pieces of the puzzle.

“However tame or outrageous you may find the current Common Core curriculum to be at the moment is utterly beside the point. Once every state educational system and local school board is forced to conform to one federal standard … then indoctrination will begin: once it's the law, once it's everywhere, once it's mandatory. What could possibly go wrong??” -Bill Whittle

Common Core 101

The following post is borrowed in its entirety from whatiscommoncore.wordpress.com.
 The only changes I've made are formatting changes to make it more easily readable.

What Is Common Core? 
This post aims to be as unmistakably direct and documented as possible.    Feel free to use it without asking permission.

DOES  COMMON CORE PREPARE STUDENTS FOR COLLEGE?
Not for a 4-year university.  It minimally prepares students for the non-collegiate workforce or for non-selective community colleges.
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A key Common Core creator, Jason Zimba, said that the Common Core can prepare students for non-selective colleges but that it does not prepare students for STEM careers.  He said:  “I think it’s a fair critique that it’s a minimal definition of college readiness…  but not for the colleges most parents aspire to… Not only not for STEM, it’s also not for selective colleges. For example, for U.C. Berkeley,  whether you are going to be an engineer or not, you’d better have precalculus to get into U.C. Berkeley.”

IS THERE AN AMENDMENT PROCESS FOR VOTERS TO ALTER THE COMMON CORE?

No.  When it changes, it will be changed by those who wrote them. (See official site .)

ARE COMMON CORE STANDARDS LOCALLY CONTROLLED?
No. They are under copyright by an unelected, private D.C. group called NGA/CCSSO which has reserved the legal right to alter them.  The federal government has made money and waivers conditional on using Common Core standards and tests.
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DO THE COMMON CORE STANDARDS  IMPROVE K-12 EDUCATION?
No one knows.  They are an unpiloted experiment.   But people who are financially invested in Common Core  say yes  to the question, while people who aren’t financially interested, and who study and analyze the Common Core standards, say no.

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Dr. James Milgram (Stanford University emeritus professor who served on the official Common Core validation committee) reported:

I can tell you that my main objection to Core Standards, and the reason I didn’t sign off on them was that they did not match up to international expectations. They were at least 2 years behind the practices in the high achieving countries by 7th grade, and, as a number of people have observed, only require partial understanding of what would be the content of a normal, solid, course in Algebra I or GeometryMoreover, they cover very little of the content of Algebra II, and none of any higher level course…  They will not help our children match up to the students in the top foreign countries when it comes to being hired to top level jobs."



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Dr. Sandra Stotsky (University of Arkansas emeritus professor who served on official Common Core validation committee and also refused to sign off on the academic legitimacy of the Common Core) said:

As empty skill sets, Common Core’s ELA standards do not strengthen the high school curriculum. Nor can they reduce post-secondary remedial coursework in a legitimate way. As empty skill sets, Common Core’s ELA “college readinessstandards weaken the base of literary and cultural knowledge needed for authentic college coursework, decrease the capacity for analytical thinkingand completely muddle the development of writing skills.” Full testimony here.

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IS COMMON CORE LEGAL?
No.  Under the Constitution, education belongs to individual states.  It is illegal for the federal government to interfere in the states’ right of making educational decisions.  National standards are illegal.  National data collection is illegal.  And the General Educational Provisions Act prohibits the federal government from directing education –very, very clearly:
No provision of any applicable program shall be construed to authorize any department, agency, officer, or employee of the United States to exercise any direction, supervision, or control over the curriculum, program of instruction, administration, or personnel of any educational institution, school, or school system, or over the selection of library resources, textbooks, or other printed or published instructional materials by any educational institution or school system…“  

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DOES COMMON CORE REALLY  TAKE AWAY MOST OF THE TRADITIONAL CLASSIC LITERATURE AND NARRATIVE WRITING?
Yes.  Although it does not specify which classic books cannot be read, the Common Core contains a chart that explains that in fourth grade, students must cut their classic/fiction reading to 50%.  By twelfth grade, students must reduce their classic/fiction reading to 30% with informational text taking up 70% of the time spent reading.

Grade Literary Information
4 50% 50%
8 45% 55%
12 30% 70%   

WHAT IS INFORMATIONAL TEXT?
Informational text is anything that used to belong mostly in other subjects. It is now taking 70% of high school seniors’ English class readings, in the form of scientific writings, political writings; opinion pieces; almost anything other than classic novels, poetry, plays or other fictional works.

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WHY DON’T COMMON CORE PROPONENTS WANT STUDENTS TO LEARN MUCH MATH?
It costs money to educate beyond minimal workforce training.  In  this 2013 document put out by the NCEE (National Center on Education and the Economy) we learn that it’s not important under Common Core to have high educational standards in high school;  it’s seen as a waste of time to educate the high school graduates past Algebra II. They’re pushing for an emphasis on the lowest common denominator, while deceptively marketing Common Core as a push for “rigorous” academics.

Read these Common Core proponents’ lips:  “Mastery of Algebra II is widely thought to be a prerequisite for success in college and careers. Our research shows that that is not so… Based on our data, one cannot make the case that high school graduates must be proficient in Algebra II to be ready for college and careers. The high school mathematics curriculum is now centered on the teaching of a sequence of courses leading to calculus that includes Geometry, Algebra II, Pre-Calculus and Calculus. However, fewer than five percent of American workers and an even smaller percentage of community college students will ever need to master the courses in this sequence in their college or in the workplace… they should not be required courses in our high schools. To require these courses in high school is to deny to many students the opportunity to graduate high school because they have not mastered a sequence of mathematics courses they will never need. In the face of these findings, the policy of requiring a passing score on an Algebra II exam for high school graduation simply cannot be justified.”
The report goes on to say that traditional high school English classes, with their emphasis on classic literature and personal, narrative writing, is useless.  The report says that Common Core will save students from the irrelevant classics with a new emphasis on technical subjects and social studies via the dominance of informational text:

The Common Core State Standards in English Language Arts (CCSSE) address reading in history/social studies as well as science and technical subjects, and in so doing may increase the relevance of high school instruction.”

In calling classic literature and personal writing irrelevant, these Common Core proponents underscore the idea that job prep matters, but not the pursuit of wisdom or knowledge.

WHY DID ALMOST EVERY STATE IN THE U.S. DROP THEIR EDUCATIONAL STANDARDS, WHETHER LOWER OR HIGHER,  TO ADOPT COMMON CORE STANDARDS?
Proponents say that the reason was to improve education.  Opponents say that it had nothing to do with education; that the standards were adopted without analysis or any vetting because the adoption was offered by the federal government under time pressure, in exchange for a chance at large federal grant monies called Race to the Top.  Even those states that applied and won no money (like Utah) stayed with Common Core, because there were many other federal reasons and incentives to do so.
WILL  THE COMMON CORE STANDARDS REMAIN AS THEY ARE TODAY?  
No. Common Core’s official site says:  “The Standards are intended to be a living work: as new and better evidence emerges, the Standards will be revised accordingly.”  There’s no way for the governed to revise the document by which they’ve agreed to be governed.
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WHY DOES THE STATE SCHOOL BOARD SAY WE’RE FREE TO CHANGE THEM?
States can’t delete anything.  We can add –a tiny bit.   A Common Core 15% rule  says: ”A State may supplement such standards with additional standards, provided that the additional standards do not exceed 15 percent of the State’s total  standards”
(This rule is repeated in the federal waivers from No Child Left Behind, in the Race to the Top Assessments Grant application, in documents of both PARCC and SBAC testing groups, and in the implementation guide of Achieve, the group contracted to create Common Core.)

WILL THE CREATORS OF COMMON CORE CHANGE THESE STANDARDS WITHOUT OUR APPROVAL?
Yes.  Common Core’s official site says:  “The Standards are intended to be a living work: as new and better evidence emerges, the Standards will be revised accordingly.”  There’s no invitation for the governed to revise.
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WHERE DO PROPONENTS GET THE NOTION THAT COMMON CORE WILL IMPROVE  EDUCATION?
From believable, expensive marketing lines.  Not from evidence.  Opponents point out that there was never any field testing for Common Core standards;  so this is a national experiment using virtually all children.  Supporters never attempt to explain how education is supposedly improved by Common Core, nor show a pilot state or pilot classroom where Common Core had been successfully used.    Beyond the many pleasant-sounding and but words, there is no documentation or evidence to back up any of the claims that the standards are higher, nor the other claims such as “Common Core was internationally benchmarked” or “is rigorous” or “improves college and career readiness.”  They are baseless advertising words.

Upon this lack of evidence we build our children’s futures.

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ARE COMMON CORE STANDARDS FREE TO US?
No.  The standards’ development and marketing was paid for primarily by Bill Gates.  The Common Core tests for most states was paid for primarily by the federal government.  States pay countless millions for the rest of the Common Core Initiative:  the re-training, new text purchases, aligned computer technologies, etc.  They incorrectly say that these high costs would have been spent anyway, even without Common Core.

WAS THE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT “HANDS-OFF” THE STATES’ ADOPTION OF COMMON CORE?
No.  Secretary Duncan announced and praised the release of the standards in 2010.  He bribed states using Race to the Top grant money.  He contracted with the testing groups to micromanage the Common Core tests, in exchange for federal grant money.


DID THE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT BRIBE STATES TO ADOPT COMMON CORE?
Yes. States received federal ARRA money to implement pre-common core reforms that paved the way for Common Core, including building a State Longitudinal Database System.  There were 4 federal key objectives for education reforms  laid out by President Obama which were the four conditions for receiving stimulus monies.  Federally defined common standards and tests were one of the conditions.

More evidence of bribery and coercion can be seen in the timing of a majority of the states’ adopting Common Core simultaneously with the Race to the Top money lure.  And recently, a group of U.S. Senators have denounced what the Executive Branch (Obama Administration) has done in coercing states with  Common Core bribes.

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IS COMMON CORE RELATED TO STUDENT DATA MINING?
Yes.   But Secretary Arne Duncan told the American Society of News Editors that opponents make “outlandish claims. They say that the Common Core calls for federal collection of student data. For the record, we are not allowed to, and we won’t.” 
He just told a bold-faced lie.  The federal Edfacts Exchange collects data for local, state and federal levels.  The federal government paid for the states to build matching and interoperable State Longitudinal Database Systems.  The White House hosts Datapalooza where Common Core and common data standards are spoken of warmly and together.  The Department of Education is listed as a partner at the EIMAC (Education Information Management Advisory Consortia) There are many other things that the Department of Education has done to take away student privacy, aiming aims to align common data standards with common educational standards.

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WHAT SPECIFICALLY DID THE DEPARTMENT OF EDUCATION DO TO REMOVE PRIVACY FROM STUDENT DATA?
– It bribed the states with ARRA Stimulus monies to build 50 linkable, twinlike State Longitudinal Database Systems (SLDS). This  created a virtual national database.
– It altered the (previously privacy-protective) federal FERPA (Family Educational Rights Privacy Act) law to make access to personally identifiable student data –including biological and behavioral data–  “legal”.  Now, the act of requiring parental consent (to share personally identifiable information) has been reduced from a requirement to just a “best practice” according to the altered federal FERPA regulations.

Best practice FERPA

For more information on this, study the lawsuit between the Electronic Information Privacy Center and the Department of Education.

– The US Department of Education partnered with private groups, including the Data Quality Campaign and the CCSSO (that’s the Council of Chief State School Officers –copyright holders on Common Core–) to collect student data nationally.

IS THIS ABOUT MAKING MONEY AT THE EXPENSE OF QUALITY EDUCATION?
Yes.  Educational gains are not the motivator for Common Core.  Notice that proponents are either financially invested in the implementation of Common Core, or else must be subservient to it and call it good because they rely on payment from those who are invested.  The financial obligation should make the following groups’ promotion of Common Core extremely suspect:
Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation - MicrosoftPearson Education - National PTA - Jeb Bush - Harvard University - National Governors’ Association - Council of Chief State School Officers - Fordham Institute – Manhattan Institute – Exxon, and many, many more.

IS COMMON CORE RESPECTED BY HIGHER ED?
132 professors of Catholic Universities recently wrote  a letter denouncing Common Core on both academic and moral grounds.

Also:
Dr. Anthony Esolen of Providence College in Rhode Island has written:
“What appalls me most about the standards … is the cavalier contempt for great works of human art and thought, in literary form. It is a sheer ignorance of the life of the imagination. We are not programming machines. We are teaching children. We are not producing functionaries, factory-like. We are to be forming the minds and hearts of men and women… to be human beings, honoring what is good and right and cherishing what is beautiful.”

Dr. Thomas Newkirk of University of New Hampshire has written:
The standards are portrayed as so consensual, so universally endorsed, so thoroughly researched and vetted, so self-evidently necessary to economic progress, so broadly representative of beliefs in the educational community—that they cease to be even debatable… The principle of opportunity costs prompts us to ask: “What conversations won’t we be having?” Since the CCSS virtually ignore poetry, will we cease to speak about it? What about character education, service learning? What about fiction writing in the upper high school grades? What about the arts that are not amenable to standardized testing? … We lose opportunities when we cease to discuss these issues and allow the CCSS to completely set the agenda, when the only map is the one it creates.”

Dr. Daniel Coupland of Hillsdale College has written:
“Yes, man is made for work, but he’s also made for so much more… Education should be about the highest things. We should study these things of the stars, plant cells, Mozart’s Requiem… not simply because they’ll get us into the right college or into the right line of work. Rather, we should study these noble things because they can tell us who we are, why we’re here… If education has become –as Common Core openly declares– preparation for work in a global economy, then this situation is far worse than Common Core critics ever anticipated. And the concerns about cost, and quality, and yes, even the constitutionality of Common Core, pale in comparison to the concerns for the hearts, minds, and souls of American children.”

 Dr. Christopher Tienken of Seton Hall University has written:
“Education reform in the United States is being driven largely by ideology, rhetoric, and dogma instead of evidence…. Where is the evidence of the efficacy of the standards? … Let us be very frank: The CCSS are no improvement over the current set of state standards. The CCSS are simply another set of lists of performance objectives.”  Dr. Tienken also has two powerful short videos on the subject of standards and of assessments.

Dr. Alan Manning of Brigham Young University has written:
“The Core standards just set in concrete approaches to reading/writing that we already know don’t work very well. Having the Core standards set in concrete means that any attempts to innovate and improve reading/writing instruction will certainly be crushed. Actual learning outcomes will stagnate at best. An argument can be made that any improvement in reading/writing instruction should include more rather than less attention the reading/analysis of stories known to effective in terms of structure (i.e. “classic” time-tested stories). An argument can be made that any improvement in reading/writing instruction should include more rather than fewer exercises where students write stories themselves that are modeled on the classics. This creates a more stable foundation on which students can build skills for other kinds of writing. The Core standards would prevent public schools from testing these kinds of approaches.”

Dr. Bill Evers of Hoover Institute at Stanford University noted:
 “The Common Core — effectively national math and English curriculum standards coming soon to a school near you — is supposed to be a new, higher bar that will take the United States from the academic doldrums to international dominance.
So why is there so much unhappiness about it? There didn’t seem to be much just three years ago. Back then, state school boards and governors were sprinting to adopt the Core. In practically the blink of an eye, 45 states had signed on.
But states weren’t leaping because they couldn’t resist the Core’s academic magnetism. They were leaping because it was the Great Recession — and the Obama administration was dangling a $4.35 billion Race to the Top carrot in front of them. Big points in that federal program were awarded for adopting the Core, so, with little public debate, most did.”

Dr. Terrence Moore of Hillsdale College has written:
“Literature is the study of human nature. If we dissect it in this meaningless way, kids not only do not become college and career ready, they don’t even have a love of learning; they don’t even have an understanding of their fellow men… The thing that bothers me more than anything else is found on page number one of the introduction. That says that Common Core is a living work. That means that the thing that you vote on today could be something different tomorrow, and five years from now it is completely unrecognizable.”    (Dr. Moore also wrote a most excellent book about Common Core English standards, entitled “The Storykillers.”)

Dr. Sandra Stotky (spoken of at the top) has written:
“The wisest move all states could make to ensure that students learn to read, understand, and use the English language appropriately before they graduate from high school is first to abandon Common Core’s ‘standards’…”

“The notion that Common Core’s college and career readiness standards are “rigorous” needs to be publicly put to bed by Arne Duncan, his friends at the Fordham Institute and the media. Two of Common Core’s own mathematics standards writers have publicly stated how weak Common Core’s college readiness mathematics standards are. At a public meeting of the Massachusetts Board of Elementary and Secondary Education in March 2010, physics professor Jason Zimba said, “The concept of college readiness is minimal and focuses on non-selective colleges.”
Dr. Stotsky also testified that:

“Beyond the lack of clarity from the outset about what college readiness was intended to mean and for whom, Common Core has yet to provide a solid evidentiary base for its minimalist conceptualization of college readiness–and for equating college readiness with career readiness. Moreover… it had no evidence on both issues.”

“Common Core supporters still can’t figure out how to deal with legitimate criticisms of its English language arts (ELA) standards. So they just keep parroting the line that Common Core’s ELA skills are actually standards, are rigorous and prioritize literary study, when it’s quite obvious to any English teacher that they are none of the above.”

“Common Core was/is not about high-quality national education standards. It was/is not about getting low-income, high-achieving students into advanced math and science courses in high school and then into college. CCSSI was and is about how to lower the academic level of what states require for high school diplomas and for admission to public colleges.”

“Of course, Common Core proponents can’t say that lowering academic standards is their goal. Instead, they claim that its standards will reduce the seemingly terrible problems we have with interstate mobility (actually less than 2 percent nationally) or enable Massachusetts teachers to know how Mississippi students compare to theirs (something they never said they were eager to learn), or facilitate nationally the sale of high-tech products to the public schools (something the P-21 skills folks were eager for). They have looked desperately for motivating issues and these are the best cards in their deck, as poor as they are.”

“Their major selling point is how poor our K-12 public education system is in too many states. But it needs to be strengthened, not weakened. We continue to need capable doctors and engineers who build bridges and tunnels that won’t collapse.”

“Are we as a society really ready to agree to Common Core’s low-expectations for college readiness (as professors Zimba and McCallum indicate)? Are we willing to lower the bar as a way of closing the achievement gap?”

“We hear no proponents or endorsers of Common Core’s standards warning this country about the effects of the college-readiness level in Common Core’s mathematics standards on postsecondary and post-baccalaureate academic and professional programs. We hear no proponents or endorsers of Common Core’s standards advising district superintendents and state education policy makers on the kind of mathematics curriculum and courses they need to make available in our secondary schools if our undergraduate engineering colleges are to enroll American students. At this time we can only conclude that a gigantic fraud has been perpetrated on this country, in particular on parents in this country, by those developing, promoting, or endorsing Common Core’s standards. We have no illusion that the college-readiness level in ELA will be any more demanding than Common Core’s college-readiness level in mathematics.” – Sept. 2013 paper: Can This Country Survive Common Core’s College Readiness Level? by R. James Milgram and Sandra Stotsky

Dr. William Mathis, of the University of Colorado, has written:
“The adoption of a set of standards and assessments, by themselves, is unlikely to improve learning, increase test scores, or close the achievement gap. • For schools and districts with weak or non-existent curriculum articulation, the CCSS may adequately serve as a basic curriculum. • The assessment consortia are currently focused on mathematics and English/language arts. Schools, districts, and states must take proactive steps to protect other vital purposes of education such as citizenship, the arts, and maximizing individual talents – as well as the sciences and social sciences. As testbased penalties have increased, the instructional attention given to non-tested areas has decreased. • Educators and policymakers need to be aware of the significant costs in instructional materials, training and computerized testing platforms the CCSS requires. It is unlikely the federal or state governments will adequately cover these costs. • The nation’s “international economic competitiveness” is unlikely to be affected by the presence or absence of national standards.”

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Parents and retired teachers, it is up to us to stop this thing.  Teachers who are currently teaching, or principals, or others who work in the education sales industry dare not speak up too loudly or risk losing their jobs.  It is up to us.

Thursday, July 5, 2012

Don't Underestimate My Daughter!


A couple of months ago my girls and I were going to begin reading Oliver Twist by Charles Dickens for a book group we participate in.  Olivia, age 11, went to the library and asked the librarian to help her look it up on the computer system.  The librarian instead looked it up for her and said she'd show her where it was*.   She then told her it was "a pretty big book.  We have a kid version, if you'd like".

Olivia responded that she wanted the unabridged version. 
Librarian: "Are you sure?"
Olivia: "Yes"
Librarian: "We have the sound recording, if that might help.  Tell me when I get the book down for you if it's too big."
Olivia: "It won't be."

She now says she wishes she had said, "I'm small, not stupid!"  Granted, she is small for her age, but the thing that bothers me about this exchange between librarian and patron is that the librarian repeatedly discouraged her from reading the unabridged version.  If a child is willing to read difficult material, why wouldn't we let them?  If it truly is too difficult for her, she will stop reading it and move on to another book, but if it isn't, how much more would she gain by reading the entire book, as written by the brilliant author?

It also bothers me that it is apparently so unusual for children to read big books that the librarian actually questions her ability to read a big book.

P.S.  She read the whole 466-page book and LOVED it! 

*Although this was an example of very nice customer service, it would have actually been more helpful to teach her how to use the computer search fields than to look it up for her.

Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Go Cart!

One day a few weeks ago, Alex and Olivia decided to build a go-cart.  They have tools in the garage and know how to use them, so they set to work.  They worked for hours, but still needed some help when Dad came home from work.  They petitioned him for assistance and he complied.  We took a trip to the D.I. for wheels ($3) and a seat ($3) and to Home Depot for the other supplies (about $12), then came home and finished it up all in one evening.  They've got a pretty great dad to drop everything to help make their dream a reality and we've got some pretty awesome kids!







Cymbalta = Poison

I've decided to post my story here as a warning to anyone who may chance upon it.  The benefits of taking Cymbalta DO NOT outweigh the costs.  Please read on.

I have been taking medication for anxiety for 5 or 6 years.  Prior to that I was prescribed several antidepressants by various doctors, but done of them really helped me feel better.  When my doctor finally figured out I had generalized anxiety disorder, not depression, and started me on Cymbalta I felt so much better and felt like I finally had an accurate diagnosis and a remedy that worked.  I felt like a normal person!   However, I didn't want to stay on medication forever.  I recently decided that it was time to at least try resuming life without the assistance of anxiety meds, with the knowledge that if it didn't work well I could always get back on them. 



Before beginning the process of getting off this medication, I visited my doctor and have been following the instructions he outlined.  The first 2 weeks I was on a half dose.  This felt exactly the same for me as the full dose (60 mg).  I began thinking that this transition wasn't going to be as difficult as I had anticipated.  Beginning on the 15th day, however, I began taking a half dose every other day.  This proved to be severely detrimental to my well-being.  I think having some in my system one day and then a day with absolutely none is too hard on my body and my mind.  Not only was my body revolting in every imaginable way, I felt like jumping in front of a semi because my mind and emotions were unstable.
I have had terrible dizziness, nausea, vomiting, stomach cramping, bloating, back pain, night sweats, headaches, crying all the time, getting mad really easily, and overall irritability.  I was completely stuck in bed because I was so sick.  At this point (while lying in bed), I decided to look online to see if others had similar experiences.  I found this hub, which showed hundreds of people describing their experiences just as I was then living them.  It gave me so much comfort just to know that I wasn't alone!  Several people posted that they have gotten off street drugs and Cymbalta and that it was harder for them to get off Cymbalta.  I honestly felt like I was going insane and finding other people going through similar experiences - and some had come back and posted after getting better - helped me so much to have the courage to endure.  Some people posted different things they tried to help them get off the drug, which helped me come up with a better plan for gradually reducing my dose.

I don't feel good about staying on a drug that has me so terribly addicted.  (One missed dose and I am a wreck for almost 2 days.) I'm sure the benefits do not outweigh the negative consequences for me any more and REALLY wish I had been warned about the withdrawal period when I first went on this drug 5 or so years ago.  I also really wish the doctor I went to for advice getting off of it had known (or had told me) that it's not as easy as the manufacturer (Lilly) makes it sound.  He did say it may take longer than the month plan he outlined, but he didn't elaborate in any way as to why it might or how difficult I should expect it to be.  I should also note that I had read the entire information pamphlet that comes with Cymbalta prescriptions on three different occasions.  (Not the few-page document that comes from the pharmacy, but the actual manufacturer's pamphlet that is written in 6 pt font!)  Even that document only says that one shouldn't stop taking it cold turkey and one should consult a doctor prior to stopping it.  Of course, how a drug affects one's body varies from person to person and I know that the longer a person is on Cymbalta, the harder it is to stop taking it, but considering the hundreds of posts on the ONE hub I listed above, it seems like there should be enough evidence that if the manufacturer cared, it would do a better job of warning people.  I also believe that doctors should learn more so they don't carelessly prescribe this drug without warning their patients about its addictive qualities.

After reading the hub I linked above, I came up with a plan for reducing my medicine more gradually.  I ended up pouring out the beads from the 60 mg capsules and counting out individual beads and putting them in empty capsules.  In the 60 mg capsules, there are about 200 beads per capsule.  I decreased my dose by 1 mg per day (3 beads) for 3 weeks, then I had to slow down because even that rate was too fast and I wasn't able to accomplish normal daily activities.  I then began taking the same dose for 3-4 days before going down 1 mg.  After 2 more weeks I began reducing my dose by 1 more bead (approx. .3 mg) each day and continued like that until I ran out of beads.  At times I had to stop reducing and take the same dose for a few days until my body got used to it because even this amazingly slow rate of reduction was very difficult.  After a few days I would assume the previous rate of 1 less bead each day. 

I have also been using essential oils.  I've been using Pine Needle oil (2 drops on the soles of my feet every 2 hours or as often as I remember) and Ginger oil (same amount and frequency).  They are said to help the body eliminate toxins and help the brain learn to re-fire synapses or something like that on its own.  It does seem like when I use these I do better than when I go a while without them.

My last pill!  1 bead!

It has been three months since I began going off Cymbalta.  I took my last "bead" (about 1/3 of 1 milligram) 4 days ago.  My vertigo (or brain shivers, or brain shocks, as this withdrawal symptom has been called) has increased dramatically just since then.  I can't believe that 1 tiny bead can make such a difference.
There have been many times I've been tempted to go back on a steady, more normal dose to ease the pains of withdrawal and to curb the feelings of anxiety that have reappeared, but I was resolute!  I feel strongly that this "medicine" is more of a poison to people's bodies and the advantages gained over other, easier-to-get-off-of medications are far outweighed by its addictive properties.

The pharmaceutical industry has labeled the withdrawal symptoms "SSRI Discontinuation Syndrome", which apparently assuages people's fears that the medication has addictive properties.  Sneaky, Eli Lilly!

In 1996, Eli Lilly and Company sponsored a symposium to address the increasing number of reports of patients who had difficult symptoms after going off their antidepressants:  By then it had become clear that drug-company estimates that at most a few percent of those who took antidepressants would have a hard time getting off were far too low. Jerrold Rosenbaum and Maurizio Fava, researchers at Massachusetts General Hospital, found that among people getting off antidepressants, anywhere from 20 percent to 80 percent (depending on the drug) suffered what was being called antidepressant withdrawal (but which, after the symposium, was renamed “discontinuation syndrome”).[11
The World Health Organization (WHO) continues to track withdrawal syndrome, and notes:  SSRIs are an example of how a conceptual confusion over terminology can affect proper reporting, interpretation and communication of adverse drug reactions related to dependence. To avoid the association with dependence, an increasing number of researchers have used a different term, discontinuation syndrome, instead of withdrawal syndrome. The number of hits for discontinuation syndrome in searches of the international medical literature began to increase, relative to the occurrence of withdrawal syndrome, in 1997 after [the Eli Lilly] symposium on antidepressant discontinuation syndrome held in 1996. In fact, dependence syndrome has been reported to the Uppsala Monitoring Centre for all SSRIs through the same postmarketing surveillance systems, although there are significantly fewer reports of dependence syndrome than of withdrawal syndrome.
I don't know about you, but 20-80% of people using the drug going through withdrawals seems pretty significant to me.

I can't help but wonder now if maybe the reason my last baby was so difficult for the first year of his life could have been because he was going through withdrawals too.  Poor little guy! :'(  When I got pregnant, my OB said that while pregnant is not the time to go off Cymbalta, but didn't explain how hard it would be either.
Aside from the vertigo which continues, I now feel pretty much the same way I did before I took Cymbalta to begin with.  I feel a tremendous amount of stress inside most of the time.  This constant feeling of stress seems to make me lose my temper faster and get irritated at everything and everybody.  I don't know how I'm going to learn to deal with feeling this way, but I know I will never take Cymbalta poison again.
If you're interested in what wikipedia has to say about Cymbalta, read here

It has been three months since I began going off Cymbalta.  I took my last "bead" (about 1/3 of 1 milligram) 4 days ago.  My vertigo has increased dramatically just since then.  I can't believe that 1 tiny bead can make such a difference.
There have been many times I've been tempted to go back on a steady, more normal dose to ease the pains of withdrawal and to curb the feelings of anxiety that have reappeared, but I was resolute!  I feel strongly that this "medicine" is more of a poison to people's bodies and the advantages gained over other, easier-to-get-off-of medications are far outweighed by its addictive properties.

I can't help but wonder now if maybe the reason my last baby was so difficult for the first year of his life could have been because he was going through withdrawals too.  Poor little guy! :'(  When I got pregnant, my OB said that while pregnant is not the time to go off cymbalta, but didn't explain how hard it would be either.
Aside from the vertigo which continues, I now feel pretty much the same way I did before I took cymbalta to begin with.  I feel a tremendous amount of stress inside most of the time.  This constant feeling of stress seems to make me lose my temper faster and get irritated at everything and everybody.  I don't know how I'm going to learn to deal with feeling this way, but I know I will never take cymbalta poison again. 

Monday, July 2, 2012

But What About Socialization???

I am sometimes told stories about home schooled children who reportedly lack "social skills".

My initial reaction is that I can't help but wonder if what they are actually trying to say is that MY children lack appropriate social skills, since they know that I home school my children.  This is insulting and rude.  If you have a true concern about my child, don't tell me your opinion of some other kid that you only see once or twice a week for an hour.  What that parent chooses to do with his/her child is not my business and it's not yours either.  If you're just making conversation and it's not about my children, you should pick appropriate conversation for your audience.  If you're a teacher, I'm not going to come tell you all about what I think is wrong with the system you work in.  If you're a doctor, I'm not going to tell you what I don't respect about doctors.  If you choose to work outside your home, I'm not going to tell you the negative effects I think that choice is having on your kids*.  It's just bad manners.  I'll try to keep my mouth shut and try to avoid the topics I know we don't see eye to eye on. Besides, I don't know everything about other people's situations, even though sometimes I think I do, so I should try to err on the side of NOT judging.  I'm not perfect at this either, but especially when it's someone's major life choice, we just shouldn't bring it up in light conversation.  Vent session over.

Second, I wonder what behaviors they see in my children that they think sending them to public schools is going to fix.  I want to point out the myriad students in public schools who are being broken along the way.  Is the perceived benefit really worth the actual cost?  I was educated at public schools.  So was my husband.  Our kids were in the public school system for many years.  We have seen both sides and don't believe that public education was helping our children to become the best people they can be.

Third (and most importantly), I think they're ignorant.  I don't mean that in an insulting way, but rather in the true sense of the word: they just don't know.  People who have spent a good deal of time around home educated children are impressed rather than critical of them.  I'll give you just one example right now: in our ward, there are multiple home schooling families and one that home educated up until a year ago.  I work in the Young Women program with youth, ages 12-18.  The home educated children ARE different.  In our group, they're AMAZING - as in HANDS DOWN, the easiest to work with, the most emotionally stable, the most confident, the most flexible, the best at relating to adults as well as other youth.  Oh, and also highly intelligent.  Ask any of the leaders and I am certain they will concur.  Does this mean we don't have publicly-educated girls with these attributes?  NO!  There are a few by the time they are 17 and 18 who have figured things out.

Another thing to consider is that if the child is different, it may not be BECAUSE they are home schooled.  They may just BE different.  And assuming that they would be "normal" if they were educated en mass is ridiculous.

In the past I have been guilty of not considering the long-term outcome.  I thought that because what I was seeing right then didn't fit my preconceived idea of what I thought I should be seeing, that kids were being slighted.  I now know a LOT of home schooling families and the long-term results are phenomenal.  That in mind, who the heck cares if they are not at exactly the same level as their same-age peers along the way?  They more than make up for it in the long-run.  There is a certain young man I know who I didn't think would ever fit in with "normal" kids.  I judged his parents and thought they were doing him a disservice by educating him at home.  I have to admit I was wrong now.  In the past two years especially, he has developed into a most amazing youth.  And through the years he hasn't been ostracized by his peers because the home educated children he spends his time with respect differences in personality, don't expect everyone to be the same, and have allowed him to become who HE is, rather than trying to convince him he should be more like them.   

I have never met a home schooling parent who did not REALLY care about what was best for their children and who wasn't sincerely doing what he/she feels is BEST for their child.

Home schooling families tend to function with amazing unity.  Why is this?  I can't be sure, but I think it's because they understand that the family is the core unit of society.  The other activities they are involved in are extracurricular - they can't easily block out the family as a necessary evil because so much time is spent with the family, so they have to make it work.  Instead of a few hours together in the evenings (and even that long is becoming quite unusual in most families I know), they spend many hours together every day.  Why do people criticize this?  Don't we WANT family to be the most important thing, both as they are growing up and when they have their own families?  Their families become their best friends at a young age, rather than once they reach adulthood.  Friends come and go, so why do we encourage them to develop those friendships as if they are the most important relationships?

I sent my daughter to junior high last year because she didn't want to be home schooled.  She was there all of two months before she was begging us to get her out of there.  We made her stay until the semester break.  In the few short months she attended junior high, we noticed a huge decline in her self-confidence, her enthusiasm for life, her desire to learn, and she became depressed.  Of course, this is not the experience of every publicly-educated child, but I would have been a neglectful parent to have forced her to remain in an environment that was having that effect on her.  So even if she develops completely backwards social skills (which, of course, is absurd), it will be worth getting her out of that toxic environment. 

The following article is from a newsletter put out by TJED.org (TJED=Thomas Jefferson Education).  You can see the original source by clicking here.  I think it does a good job of helping to sort out the firmly-held myths regarding socialization.

What are We Socializing Them For?

By Stephen Palmer
fishschool June 2012 Inspire! NewsletterAs a homeschooling family, my wife and I occasionally get the predictable, worn-out question, “But what about their social life?”
First of all, the question is utterly bizarre to me, given how much social interaction our kids get between several homeschool groups with tons of activities and outings, and myriad other activities, such as art classes, dance classes, cooking classes, Judo, flag football, etc., not to mention how much they play with neighborhood kids.
The idea that homeschoolers don’t get healthy social interaction is such a backwards, 20-years-ago perception.
Secondly, it makes me laugh when I think back to my public school experience.
Here’s what public school taught me about socialization:
  • It’s okay — encouraged, even — to make fun of anyone “different” than you and your core group of friends, particularly the weak, weird, mentally and physically disabled, and poor.
  • Within an “acceptable” range, everyone should dress, act, and think like everyone else, and those in any way and to the slightest degree outside of the norm should expect to be mocked mercilessly.
  • Appearances are everything.
  • You should only interact with those in your grade. Those in higher grades are cooler than you (and are therefore entitled to bully you and everyone else younger than them), and those in lower grades are less than you.
  • You should compare yourself to and militantly compete with others.
  • What your peers think of you is far more important than what you think of yourself, or what God thinks of you. Sacrifice everything for popularity.
  • Don’t question authority; teachers and other authority figures know best. Stay in line. There’s an established, “right” way for everything — don’t deviate.
“The idea of learning acceptable social skills in a school is as absurd to me as learning nutrition from a grocery store.” -Lisa Russell
Based on most accounts I’ve heard, this is quite typical public school “socialization,” which is interesting in and of itself.
But here’s where it gets really interesting: Nowhere outside of high school have any of these been my experience, at least not nearly to the degree felt in high school.
Sure, I’ve experienced the very typical (and relatively benign) perceptions and comments regarding our non-traditional views on things like education, homebirthing, politics, etc.
But nothing even close to the overt and extremely aggressive ostracization, mocking, competitiveness, and bullying I witnessed in high school.
Rather than attending high school my junior and senior years, I attended a community college through a program called Running Start.
Not a single person in college ever cared about what clothes I wore, who I hung out with, what my interests were, how old I was, etc.
It was a completely different world than high school.
In fact, in college diversity was appreciated and encouraged much more than conformity. Everyone I interacted with was respectful and accepting.
It was encouraged to question commonly-accepted truths, habits, societal arrangements, etc.
Since leaving high school, I’ve never had a single friend who cared one whit about my fashion sense (or lack thereof, as the case may be).
I’ve yet to interact with an adult who thinks it’s really cool to make fun of those less privileged than them.
I’m still waiting for an adult to bully me because they’re a year older than me, or an adult to fear me because they’re younger than me.
socialize kids 300x300 June 2012 Inspire! NewsletterIf socialization outside of public school is nothing like, or is at least substantially different from socialization in public school, then what in the name of John Dewey are we socializing our kids for?
For those who disagree with my experience with and perception of public school socialization, who really value socialization and worry that your kids won’t get it outside of public school, I have a sincere question for you:
What do you want your kids to get from public school socialization (or socialization in general)?
I imagine your responses would include:
  • You want them to be confident, emotionally mature, well-adapted, respectful, and considerate.
  • You want them to be able to interact with, relate to, and positively influence anyone, regardless of age, race, culture, or any differences of opinions or perceptions.
  • You want them to have the courage to stand up for what’s right, even and especially when it’s not popular.
  • You want them to be a leader, not a follower.
  • You want them to learn to strive for excellence, but without feeling the need to “beat” or denigrate others in the process.
  • You want them to develop the maturity to respect authority for the right reasons without accepting it unquestioningly, and, as needed, to learn to question and change things wisely and effectively.
Right?
Well, we share those desires.
I’m not trying to convince anyone that homeschooling is better than public schooling — as a well-adjusted, socialized adult who believes in freedom, tolerance, and diversity, I wholeheartedly respect and embrace you, no matter your opinions on the subject.
But I am inviting those who advocate public school for the sake of socialization to question what your children are actually getting in the way of socialization.
As Manfred Zysk wrote in his thought-provoking article “Homeschooling and the Myth of Socialization,”
“A family member asked my wife, ‘Aren’t you concerned about his (our son’s) socialization with other kids?’. My wife gave this response: ‘Go to your local middle school, junior high, or high school, walk down the hallways, and tell me which behavior you see that you think our son should emulate.’”
And for those concerned that our homeschooled children aren’t getting enough or appropriate socialization, I’m inviting you to consider that there are other ways to achieve healthy socialization, and we’re not raising our kids to be cloistered, introverted misfits.
We’re not opting them out of society.
We’re just opting them out of the strange public school bubble that, in our experience, doesn’t even represent normal, healthy society.
In other words, we’re socializing them for what they’ll actually experience beyond high school.

Stephen Palmer is a TJEd homeschooler and the co-founder of Life Manifestos.

*NOTE: If you choose to read my blog, it's not the same as my bringing up a conversation with you.  If what I write bothers you, don't read it.  

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

This might help you understand me

For any of my handful of readers that know me personally, the following quote has the potential to help you understand me a little better.  It is from an awesome blog from Hyperbole and a Half you could read in its entirety here.

"The longer I procrastinate on returning phone calls and emails, the more guilty I feel about it.  The guilt I feel causes me to avoid the issue further, which only leads to more guilt and more procrastination.  It gets to the point where I don't email someone for fear of reminding them that they emailed me and thus giving them a reason to be disappointed in me." 
If it doesn't ring true to you, you probably won't really ever understand those of us who feel this way.  The entire blog post it came from is amazing (except for one offensive word) and pretty much sums up many of the problems my family of origin deals with on a daily basis.  Most of us were wired a little differently than the standard human.  If you don't understand, count yourself lucky.